Slow and sure

Did ya hear the news?

Singer Jason Mraz got engaged.  But no sooner did he slip the ring on fellow singer Tristan Prettyman’s finger than he announced:

“We’re not getting married.”

What a kill joy.

Actually, it was a joint decision.  The couple isn’t going to tie the knot until marriage is legal for everyone, namely gay couples.

The two join a growing list of celebrity couples who have made similar ‘we’re waiting until gay couples can marry’ decrees.  I believe the first was Charlize Theron and Stuart Townsend.  But they broke up in 2010 after nine years of dating…so it kinda became a moot point.

Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt have also declared that they will not get hitched until gay marriage is legal.  It is a strong public show of support for the gay community from two very public personalities, so kudos to them.

But this tiny little cynical voice deep down inside of me wonders — is that the real story?  Is gay marriage the only reason that these couples are choosing to stay single?  Or is it just a very good excuse to have a longer engagement…and keep their options open a bit longer?

They know as well as we how long — or should I say short — marriages are amid the stifling scrutiny of  the paparazzi.  If adopting a popular cause that they truly believe in gives them a bit more breathing room before they take the leap…

Who can blame them?