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Holidaze

There’s a rumor going around that it’s a holiday weekend…?

If you work freelance like me and don’t have the structure of an office — or co-workers to remind you — things like three-day weekends can slip up on you.

A friend asked me yesterday what “big plans” I had for the holiday.  After I wracked my brain to remember which one it was, I felt compelled to justify why I had nothing special on my calendar.

  • The dog had been sick.
  • I travel for business, so I tend to stay close to home for the holidays.
  • Most of my friends were out-of-town visiting their families.
  • I’m going to see Conan O’Brien on Tuesday at Radio City Music Hall…does that count?!

I realize being freelance isn’t the only reason my holidays are often atypical.  I’m not married, I don’t have kids, and I live far away from most of my siblings…so even when they do have big family gatherings, I’m usually too far away to participate except for Christmas or Thanksgiving.

So, Memorial Day.  Sorry I didn’t see you coming.  I’ll probably still work a bit on Monday…and will be sad there’s no mail delivery.

But luckily for me, the movie theaters never close.

Party!

Working relationships

“Work husband.”

I used that phrase in a text message to my friend Suzanne earlier today, and she laughed.

Have you ever had a work husband or wife?

You know, a co-worker who you spend more time with than your actual significant other… who can finish your sentences for you… who laughs at your jokes and really ‘gets you’ and your ideas?

Don’t get me wrong — this is not a romantic situation; you’re both perfectly happy in your relationships outside of work, but at work — this person is a spouse (of sorts).

I had such a work husband at one of my first jobs.  We worked long hours and spent way more time together than either of us probably wanted to.  But he was — and remains — a great friend that I truly respect.

When I was offered an exciting new position in another city, telling him I was leaving was one of the hardest things I’ve ever done.  Breaking up that partnership — “divorcing” my work husband when I was happy in the work marriage — was tough.

But, we were adults about it.  We both went on to new jobs and new ways of working.  I’ve had a couple of other work husbands after him, in fact.

But…you never forget your first.