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I’m with Jenn

Home improvement

I have become a bit of an HGTV addict since a visit to a good friend last August.

Now the channel is the background noise in my apartment. Property Brothers, Fixer Upper, and Love It or List It are major distractions. And I hear this tired cliche from homeowners all the time
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Perhaps I should be thrilled that the woman is ‘winning’ in this scenario, but instead it kinda pisses me off.

I’ve never been married, but I envision a partnership of sorts where decisions are made together and compromise is key. This credo makes it sound like the wife is some crabby curmudgeon who holds every outcome over her husband’s head.  If its doesn’t go her way, grudges will commence! Sex will be withheld! Pain will be inflicted!

Geez — where’s the love?

And where’s the husband equivalent of this saying?  Is there one?

An unmarried woman wants to know.

 

 

The latest model

Did you see the pics from Robert Kennedy, Jr’s wedding in Cape Cod on Saturday?

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He married actress Cheryl Hines of Suburgatory, Curb Your Enthusiasm and Waitress.

I have a somewhat personal interest in these nuptials since I met Robert and his former wife Mary on a flight to Aspen several years ago.  They were both very nice.  I didn’t realize then that Mary was this second wife.

That makes Cheryl number three.

Well, Robert lives here in New York, so I fully expect to vet Cheryl one day very soon!

 

 

Renewed vows

It’s no coincidence that most movies end with the wedding.

That’s when reality kicks in.
112 WeddingsThe documentary 112 Weddings (HBO OnDemand) gives audiences the opportunity to see how that reality measures up.

Filmmaker Doug Block shot wedding videos for 112 couples over his career, and in this documentary, revisits some of those couples a decade or more later after the ‘I do’s.’

Most are still married. One couple is in the process of divorcing and agreed to be interviewed separately.  But all agree that marriage is far different from any idea they may have had at the start.

Many have faced real challenges.  Seriously ill children.  Depression.  But all answer the simple question: would we do it all again, knowing what we know now.

The film manages to be both sobering and joyful at the same time…which is how couples should probably approach such an important life choice.

If you stop and think about it.

Why not live together?

By now you have read the news that John Krasinki, who plays Jim on “The Office,” is engaged to wed fellow actor Emily Blunt of “The Devil Wears Prada” fame.  Isn’t that wonderful?

Then why do I feel like crying?

John and Emily are both in their late 20’s, so they are definitely old enough to marry.  And they have dated for the better part of a year, so it’s not like they are rushing into anything.  Heck, they’re both funny and attractive — I’m sure they are a great match.

But marriage — really?

Marriage is hard enough for John and Emily no-name down the street who don’t have to deal with all the pressures that accompany stardom.  Most newlyweds don’t have the paparazzi following them everywhere they go; try to make a marriage work with that going on every day. (Right, Jon and Kate + Eight?)

Stay engaged for a long, long time, guys. Wait until you are really sure.  Because from what I’ve seen of late…the media is going make you wish you had.